What I wanted to discuss was another way to apply this. Jenna mostly talks about how to let go of your expectations of the world. I wanted to write about letting go of the world's expectations of you.
(This gap signifies a gap in time, and stuff I started to write but then deleted, and then went crazy looking at jobs and degrees and isn't this ironic that I felt all the expectations while thinking about how I shouldn't?)
While I was writing this, I started to feel it. What the hell am I doing? I have a degree in psychology. I work at a grocery store. And yet all I want to do is be an author, because that's what makes me happy, and that's what gives my life meaning. I don't want to spend a ton of time, effort and money for something that might be better than what I'm doing now, but won't really be fullfilling. It wouldn't be for me, it'd be what other people expected me to do.
It all comes down to this: What do you want out of life?
Well, personally, I just want to make sure my mark on the world was more positive than negative. I want to make people happy. The best way I know how to do that is by writing books. One of my goodreads reviews said The Mansion's Twins brightened up a rainy weekend. That's completely amazing. To improve the day of a complete stranger.
Dawn's Acapella might have a similar positive impact. More than one review said it should be in anti-bullying programs at schools. Just to have that said is amazing.
These are just my personal experiences. The world puts a lot of presure on all of us. If you have smart parents, you're expected to be smart. If you were good at football in school, you're expected to continue with it. But what if you don't like it anymore? What if you want to try something new? People will question your choices because of what they expect you to be.
These are their expectations. Jenna does comment on this in the video. Go ahead and listen to them, but them let them go.
I mean, think about Nathaniel in Acapella Angels. He set the expectation for himself that he would be a strong warrior and win Cassandra's heart. But that's not at all who he was. If he had just let that go, he might have been happy.
Follow your own heart. And while you're trying to let go of other people's expectations, make sure you're not pressuring another person the same way the world pressures you.
I know I'll write more of my personal thoughts on this is a later blog. For now, I think I'll leave it that. Letting go of expectations will bring us all more happiness.