For some reason I’ve always liked “show don’t tell” rather than “Actions speak louder than words.” Maybe because it’s more direct and to the point. Maybe because I learned it first in writing, and then decided it's applicable to life in general.
If a friend of yours makes you feel weird for being caught up in your story, or “nerdy” for enjoying another person’s story—well, that’s already not a great friend. If he/she continues on to say they do support you, and “if it means a lot to you, it means a lot to me,” etc… That might be my biggest pet peeve in life. Especially after said friend promises to go to an event of yours and then doesn’t show with no explanation. Oh, and don’t be concerned that’s she’s reading this. She probably doesn’t know I have a blog.
If a co-worker says “You’re the boss,” and then proceeds to fight you over every little thing (even though it was the higher-up bosses who told you both the right way), and then to top it all off calls you “sweetheart,” of course any normal person is going to be angry. If said co-worker then apologize, saying he does have respect for you and you are in charge, he shouldn't be surprised if you can't accept that apology. Not necessarily because you're still mad, but mainly because you have literally no idea what to make of him.
I will always believe what you've shown me above what you've told me.
I can’t stand people who are different in their words/on paper/on facebook than they are in person. Don’t go on facebook and "like" all my posts about embracing your weirdness, being true to who you are, and believing in magic, when all of those things actually make you uncomfortable, and you want to run away or make fun of me when you see me living by those words.